The Obvious Things Some Women Don’t Do (In Bed)

The Obvious Things Some Women Don’t Do (In Bed)  I picked up a Cosmo magazine on a whim last week and I came across a list of “60 Hands Free Ways to  Wow Him”. It’s Cosmo so of course all 60 things contributed by different individuals were sex related. After reading and skimming over countless tips about oral sex I come across one or two that were more elaborate like keep your heels on while arching your back in a handstand position (okay… it didn’t say that), or subtle like brush your cheek against his shoulder. The elaborate tips weren’t as outrageous as my example but they did consist of pre planning and deliberate actions,...

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Mistress Rules Part 2: Girlfriends Can’t Behave like Mistresses

Mistress Rules Part 2: Girlfriends Can’t Behave like Mistresses   I posted a piece last year titled The Mistress Rules about the guidelines that mistresses follow. My intention was to keep girlfriends/ wives one step ahead of the “other woman”. After being with men who had mistresses and after unintentionally becoming one for a very very very short moment (I’m not proud of it), what has come to my attention is the modern day girlfriend or wife thinks that if we give our men everything that he is getting from the other women then he’ll stop cheating. When you think about it, in theory it makes sense but it is no longer...

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The Mistress Rules

The Mistress Rules There are a lot of people talking and speculating about the Alicia Keys debacle. Her situation has reignited the concern and controversy of women questioning why are men having affairs? It also has women all over the world pointing fingers: Some claim it’s the man’s fault and others strongly believe it’s the fault of the mistress.We all know it takes two to have an affair. Alicia Keys is not the first women to be a mistress nor will she be the last. Instead of bashing her or delving into “why men cheat?”… I’m more interested in figuring out: What goes through a woman’s mind when she decides to become a mistress?Women...

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The Rubber Band Effect: Getting Him to Want to Spend Time with You

The Rubber Band Effect: Getting Him to Want to Spend Time with You   I was reading the May issue of Cosmopolitan magazine and they had an article called “Your Secret Love Weapon” by Robin Hilmantel. The article speaks about the moment in a relationship where the guy starts to back away. This was the first Cosmo article that I ever pulled out a highlighter to take note of certain points because this pattern has been a needle in my side when it comes to relationships. I understand that eventually people run out of things to talk about so frequently but it bothers me that the desire to spend time talking to and hanging out with someone we really like or love decreases. For me, communication is comparable to the spark in the relationship. If we stop talking or seeing...

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CAN ONE LIVE IN ADULTERY?

CAN ONE LIVE IN ADULTERY? I know there has been a lot of discussion about living in adultery.  The person who divorces his mate for a reason other than fornication and marries another is living in an adulterous marriage and the woman who has been divorced for a reason other than fornication and marries someone else is living in adultery. The person who marries her is living in adultery.   There are some who deny that you can live in adultery. They say that adultery is an act. I realize that adultery is an act, but the Bible teaches that you can live in adultery. Paul asks the question, "How shall we who died to sin live...

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HOW LONG IS YOUR FIRST MARRIAGE TO LAST?

HOW LONG IS YOUR FIRST MARRIAGE TO LAST? The Bible is very clear in it's teaching concerning how long God wants you to stay married to the first person you marry. The inspired apostle Paul wrote, "A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord". Isn't this clear?  When you marry, you are bound by God's law to be married to your spouse as long as both of you are living. According to God's law you are free to marry someone else ONLY AFTER your spouse dies.Paul again addresses this subject in the book of Romans. "For the woman who...

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MARRIAGE, DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE

MARRIAGE, DIVORCE AND REMARRIAG One of the greatest needs in the world today is for people to recognize and abide by the law of God concerning marriage, divorce and remarriage. There are very few families who are not affected by divorce.  This is just as true of families in the church of Christ as it is of those who are in the world. One of the reasons this is so, is that we are not teaching on this subject as we should.  Some elderships will not allow this subject to be studied from their pulpits.  Some preachers will not preach on it because they don't want to deal with "controversial" subjects.  Some will not...

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CONCLUSION FOR THE WHAT EVERY HUSBAND SHOULD KNOW ABOUT THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP

It is the observing of these three primary forces on the part of the man that makes it possible for a woman to be a woman!  This is what every husband should know --  that he creates the atmosphere that makes it possible for her to supply those womanly qualities that complement his manly ones and make a home what God intended a home to be. It is only as he exerts his leadership in this three-fold area that she finds it fully possible to manifest those qualities which God has placed within her.  Therefore, a happy marriage begins with the man. Peter has one final point to make.  It is a word...

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HEIRS TOGETHER OF THE GRACE OF LIFE

The third area that Peter speaks of is that the husband understand the need for unlimited sharing of his own life with his wife in the most important part of his life - his spiritual life. You are "heirs together of the grace of life."  This means that a husband must recognize his wife's right to share in this most important aspect of his life. Too many husbands have the idea that the religious part of their families' life is to be led by their wives. They think it is unmanly to be religious or spiritually minded. Men, there is nothing more important to your family and to your wife than your spiritual...

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GIVING HONOR TO THE WIFE

GIVING HONOR TO THE WIFE  Then Peter says that the husband must be "...giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel." What does this mean? Someone once said, "That means helping her with the dishes when she has a headache."  I'm sure that is a part of what Peter had in mind when he said this, but what Peter says here reflects the wife's deepest emotional need. First, when Peter says that the husband must dwell with his wife with understanding, he shows that it is possible for men to understand their wives.  One of the first and most important things  that we husbands must understand...

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DWELL WITH THEM WITH UNDERSTANDING

DWELL WITH THEM WITH UNDERSTANDING In this verse, the Apostle Peter puts his finger squarely on the primary role of the husband in marriage -- that of knowledgeable leadership. "Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding." This emphasizes the responsibility of the husband in giving understanding leadership in his home.  Every man is ultimately responsible to God for what his home becomes.  This is what the Scriptures consistently teach. In writing to the Corinthians the Apostle Paul says, "But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God." ...

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WHAT EVERY HUSBAND SHOULD KNOW ABOUT THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP

WHAT EVERY HUSBAND SHOULD KNOW ABOUT THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP Anyone who closely observes the marriage scene today knows that many marriages are in trouble.  This is true not only of marriage between non-Christians, but between Christians as well. Divorce takes place all too often even among Christians.  This indicates that there is still a lot of teaching that needs to be done concerning what God's word teaches about marriage. There are many contributing factors to this problem. It would be impossible to look at all of them, but one of the principle causes is that when couples start having problems in their marriages, the...

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THE LOVE GOD HAS FOR US

THE LOVE GOD HAS FOR US When one reads the New Testament, it is very hard to find a passage that mentions God's love for us that doesn't either directly or indirectly mention the demonstration of that love through His Son Jesus Christ. A passage most are familiar with, and that many people can quote . Here the Bible says, "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life." Here the Bible speaks of God's love for us (the world) and shows that His love was demonstrated by sending His Son to give His life for us. Let me list several verses similar to...

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THE LOVE GOD HAS FOR US

 THE LOVE GOD HAS FOR US As one examines the world in which we live and as we examine ourselves, we see the need to come to a greater appreciation of what the Bible teaches about love. If we were asked, most of us would quickly affirm that we need to be more loving. But what is love? What is the love that the Bible teaches us to have?  Is it simply physical attraction? Is it mere affection? Does it just deal with sexual relations? Is love something that motivates one to tolerate anything and everything in religion and never offend anyone or hurt anyone's feelings? The kind of love the Bible speaks of -- the kind of love that...

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MY CONCLUSION TROUBLES WILL COME

So, we will all face troubles in life because that is the condition of human beings while living in this life. Yet, we must realize they are only temporary and that there is an eternal weight of glory awaiting us in heaven and we must ever keep our eyes upon that goal no matter what we have to face. We should use the experiences we face in times of trouble to render comfort to others who may face similar experiences. And we should try to the best of our ability to develop the right attitude toward these things. Let me leave you with one verse and then the lesson is yours. The Hebrew writer was writing to comfort Christians in the first...

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USE THE TROUBLES YOU FACE TO HELP OTHERS

USE THE TROUBLES YOU FACE TO HELP OTHERSOne of the things that I believe will help us in facing troubles and overcoming them, is that we can use the experiences we have faced to help others when they face the same kinds of things. Now some people face troubles but they never use their experiences to help others. But one of the best ways to consider the troubles we face in life in a positive way, is to realize that we can use the things we have learned in these experiences to help others. I don't really know what it's like to lose a spouse, for example, but some of you here know what it's like. When someone loses a spouse, you know how...

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HOW DO WE DEAL WITH TROUBLES IN LIFE?

HOW DO WE DEAL WITH TROUBLES IN LIFE? Realizing that we will have problems and troubles in life and that we will face persecution of one kind or another, the next question is: How do we deal with these things? What can we do to assure that we remain faithful and use the troubles in our lives to accomplish God's will? There's great teaching and comfort found in God's word that will help us in this regard, if we will just take heed. First, we must realize that the troubles we face in life are only temporary and will end some day. I don't know about you, but when I know that something's going to end, even though it may be very difficult...

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TROUBLES WILL COME

Be kind. For everyone you meet is fighting a battle When I was young, I didn't appreciate that sentiment like I do now. The older you get, the more you realize that it's true. Everyone you meet is fighting a battle of one kind or another. That's also true of Christians. There are some reading this article who are fighting battles of one kind or another. It may be dealing with the loss of a loved one in death, taking care of aging parents, problems with our children or grandchildren, facing temptations of one kind or another, dealing with illness, with financial problems or whatever it may be. Many, if not all of us are fighting battles...

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